Tuesday, 30 April 2013

Why I need to be by myself - and think you should be, too

Let me start by saying that I love people. I love my family, my friends, my co-workers, my boyfriend, my acquaintances – I think everyone in my life is amazing, and I truly enjoy having them in my life.

But I am also really happy when I'm alone. It helps me to de-stress and find balance in my life.

Santiago, Chile

I enjoy doing things by myself – whether that be going for a run, to a fitness class, doing a little bit of shopping, or reading a book.

My boyfriend is a bit different than me here. He doesn’t always understand when I say I need some time to myself. He takes it personally.

I love him dearly, and cherish my time with him.
  
I’m writing this to remind myself why I enjoy some alone time, and why I think everyone else should enjoy theirs, too:

You need to be happy and like yourself for everything that you are.

I know I’ve made mistakes. I know I’m not perfect, but I try to embrace everything about who I am, and you should too. Get to know yourself! If you don’t know who you are, then you need to spend some time alone and find out. Be confident and secure with yourself and don’t look to others to always entertain you or full-fill any voids in your life.

Being alone a healthy way to de-stress, reflect, and find balance.

When you are spending time by yourself, you have the peace and quiet to reflect upon your day and your own person. Turn off your computer and your phone. Pause and think about the day before letting it all go and facing a new one.

You only have one life, and there is only one you.

I am talking about here, today.

Now.

You need to do what’s best for you. Other may influence you, so be sure to spend time alone and let your feelings speak to you.

At the end of the day, all you really have is yourself.

You are left with your own decisions and who you are as person. Enjoy your own company and be proud of who you are.

Please don’t misunderstand me. Like I said earlier, I love people. And I really do believe that naturally, we are drawn towards companionship. I also believe that life is better shared with others, including a significant other. But through all of life’s adventures, don’t lose yourself. Follow your heart. And take all the time you need to find inner peace.

I encourage you to reach out to others for support and love with all of your heart, but share some of that love with you, too.

Do something for yourself today.