Tuesday, 30 July 2013

Let This Serve As a Reminder: Life Isn’t All About You

Like most people, I’m going to guess that you’re probably working on trying to find some more time to yourself.

You want to find your passion and your dreams, and do what really makes you happy. You want to exercise and eat right and spend time doing what you love. You probably have a job that you enjoy (or don’t), and sometimes it drains you. Maybe you own your own business and are on-call 24/7. The clock never stops, the pressures feel heavy, and when you get a moment to breath, you just want to do what you want to do.

I do believe that you can’t be happy with anyone else until you’re happy with yourself, and that you must take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else, but I also think that sometimes we need to take a step back and stop thinking about ourselves.

In today’s busy, fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in our own lives. We have so many things we want to do and see, and only so much time accomplish it all. We are almost always connected, planning our next steps, and thinking about what we want to get out life that sometimes we forget that life is supposed to get some things out of us, too.

If you're like me and are trying to find balance between what you want to do, should do, and what needs to be done, try to keep this in mind:

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Life comes with responsibilities. 
There are people who count on you. Whether it is your family, significant other, friends, employer, or those less fortunate, there are a lot of people who need you in this world and require some of your undivided attention. Spend your time wisely. You should always follow your heart, but be considerate of other people too.

You need to decide what kind of person you are and who you want to be.
Do you want others to be able to count on you and lean on you through tough times? How giving, patient, and thoughtful are you willing to be? Doing things for others will make you happy and feeling more fulfilled with your life. And remember, what goes around comes around.

Think about how much others do for you.
Chances are, you are not taking on this world alone. Think about what others do for you on a daily basis, including emotionally. Looking at the bigger picture, do you count on others for help when you ask? Do you feel the need to be connected to friends and family, to seek their advice and enjoy their companionship? Think about what others do for you, be thankful, and try to give back all the generosity you receive. 

It doesn't have to be a big deal.
Stopping by your friend’s birthday party when you are feeling tired does not have to be a big deal, and it could really mean a lot to your friend. Try to compromise - go for a little while and leave early. It will mean a lot to them if you make the effort. Of course, if you actually can’t go then don’t, but try to be there for your friends and family as much as you can. Things you do can make other people happier, and supporting them can go a long way.

You can draw a line in the sand, but is that line going to be on the shoreline or the boardwalk?
Yes, set boundaries. We all need to be a little selfish sometimes. But think about how far you are willing to go to help others, and extend that by just a little bit each day.

Love yourself for helping others.
Be healthy, eat right, and stay active. But don’t forget that we are all in this together. Be generous with your time, money and heart. You may never know how far acts of kindness can go or what they may mean to someone else. It is the right thing to do.

Do you struggle with finding balance in life between what you want to do and what you should do for others? I would love to hear what strategies and tips you use in your life.

Thanks for reading,