Tuesday, 13 August 2013

How to Let Go of the Past and Cherish Your Memories

I don’t know very many people who have a healthy relationship with their past – they either can’t bear to think about it, shrug it off as if it has no significance to their life whatsoever, or day-dream endlessly about it, wishing it were still happening today, almost forgetting to live in the present.

I have to admit that I’ve probably been all of the above at some point or another.

Recently, I’ve come to realize that in order to have a healthy relationship with your past, you need to accept yourself for all that you are, have been, and will be.

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Accept what is done, and what is to be. Accept that life is not in your hands and that no matter how hard you try, you can’t control what other people do and what they think of you. This means you have to be OK with everything. Don’t dwell and don’t stress. Just Be.  

Learn from your past

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we make bad choices, so don’t be too hard on yourself but also remember that at one time, the choices you made were exactly what you wanted.

Let your past guide you into being the person that you are today and who you are going to be in the future. Whether that be a mother/father, a husband or wife, a grandparent, a business owner, an employee or a volunteer – just do your best and continue to be beautiful you.

Things can change, fast

Things don’t always turn out the way we think they should, and that’s OK.

No one knows what the future holds.

Life altering experiences happen when you least expect them to, and come in all different shapes and sizes. This goes for other people, too. People go through different life experiences and change over time. What’s true today is not necessarily true tomorrow.

No one really cares

No one – and I mean no one – re-plays and thinks about your life as much as you do. No one remembers it like you do, either. For the most part, you’ll find that people are pretty self-absorbed. They all have their own memories and their own truth about what did or didn’t happen.

We have to remember that we all live our lives through our own lenses – there is no one else who remembers things or sees the world exactly as you do. Our experiences and choices make our life journey whole, and what may seem like a big deal to you is probably not that big of a deal to anyone else.

Think of the positives

Be grateful for all of the good things that you’ve experienced. Don’t focus on the negative. Be thankful for all of the experiences that have brought you to where you are today.

Soon, this moment – today – is going to be your past. Don’t regret it or rush through it. Enjoy the simple things and every day that is given to you because someday you’re going to miss this, too. There is no better time than the present, right?

Stay positive and know that there is so much more to look forward to and so many more memories that are to be made. You will cherish those, also.