Friday, 2 August 2013

What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, knowing a change is needed in your life but can’t figure out just what or why?

Here are some tips I use when I’m feeling that way to try and identify what needs to change and how:
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Acknowledge when and where you feel this way
Does a feeling of frustration, despair or sadness come over you at certain times of the day? Maybe it’s first thing in the morning, middle of the afternoon or after a day at the office? Or do your thoughts keep you up at night? Try to identify patterns of when these feelings are the strongest and try to understand what that means. It could be something as simple as needing a change in routine or diet.
Try writing about It
Journaling has a lot of positive health benefits and is recommended in a lot of different therapies. Putting thoughts on paper can help reduce stress, clarify thoughts and feelings, and let things go. Start by writing about how you’re feeling.

Make a list of life goals and realistic steps you can take to accomplish them, one at a time, or try making a list of the feelings and experiences you’ve had throughout the day.

Journaling will help you track patterns and growth over time. It’s also helpful to reflect on past entries and read about what you’ve overcome and accomplished.

Try something different or new
It can be as simple as changing the route you take to work every day or trying a new physical activity that you don’t usually do. For example, instead of going for a run, try going for a swim. Try making a new recipe, or paint your nails a different colour. Read a book. Volunteer somewhere, like at the local animal shelter.

Talk to a professional
Someone who is neutral and professionally trained can help you work through issues or struggles you are facing. If you don’t already have a therapist, try finding one. They can be very helpful and no, they are not for crazy people! You should be proud of taking that step to acknowledge you may need a professional’s opinion and seek it out.
Don’t dwell on it
Don’t get stuck on something that you’ve acknowledged is bothering you but you can’t seem to resolve. There is probably a reason your hesitating or don’t have the answer you are looking for right now.
Yes, you may need to make some changes or have some hard conversations to figure some things out in your life, but if you don’t feel ready then don’t force it. Life has a way of working itself out, and the resolution will come to you.
Most importantly, take your time and be open and listen to yourself. Chances are you probably already know the answer. You just need to listen, and it will come to you when you are ready.