Tuesday, 22 October 2013

Letting Go

I think it is human nature to want to have things our way, be in the know, and decide next steps. But the truth is, nothing in life is guaranteed.

We have to accept that life is not in our hands. 
We can take certain steps and make decisions about ourselves that will help us achieve our goals and work towards where we want to be, but sometimes, the universe just has other plans for us.

I’ve been learning more and more about this over the last couple of years, particularly after my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. And let me tell you – I did not see that one coming. But what may surprise you is that my Dad’s cancer diagnosis was the single best thing that’s ever happened to me in my life. Not a lot of people can say that a brain tumor was the best thing that’s ever happened to them, but I believe my family can.

The tumor was affecting my Dad’s right frontal lobe – the part that manages his emotions, and what he would say. It was a nightmare.

The type of cancer that affected my Dad has the ability to change within itself – so the doctors don't know how long it could have been there before they found it. It could have been benign for years before it turned cancerous, and then aggressive. I thank God every day for the amazing recovery he’s had.

Since then, I've been able to actually get to know my Dad. And it's been really nice. Because of his cancer and surgery, he is a completely different person. We all are. And its for the better. 
One of the biggest lessons I learned from this is that sometimes the shittiest things really do turn out to be the most beautiful. This is hard to see in the thick of things – in fact, it’s pretty much damn near impossible - but then comes the day where you look back and realize you made it through, and life is better because of it.

Try as you might, you can't control others, and you certainly can't control what the universe has in store for you.

There is a great book that a person gave to me read to help learn to accept this truth, and learn how to let go. She is a relative, a friend, and a mentor. She is a daughter, a mother, a sister and an aunt, and she is beautiful. She has been through some of the most trying times, yet she stands strong, with a smile on her face and love in her heart. I've learned a lot from her, and if she is reading this, she will know I am speaking to her right now. 
The book that she gave me is called "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie. It's almost like a daily devotional book. It is uplifting and empowering. I highly recommend it.

Today's affirmation of the book is this:

"Today, I will trust my truth, my instincts, and my ability to ground myself in reality. I will not allow myself to be swayed by bullying, manipulating, games, dishonesty, or people with peculiar agendas."

Everyone in this world has issues, struggles, and their own battle to fight. 
All you can do is your best, and take one day at a time.

Remember: life is not in your hands.